We’ve been discussing the fact that discretion is one of the best qualities one could find in a woman. I want to conclude the matter with one last thought. Discretion can also be defined as “having cautious reserve in speech”. Now this definition isn’t saying that a woman is supposed to be quiet and reserved, without anything to say. That chauvinistic mess is for the birds. It’s 2010. We off that! This is talking about the ability to choose one’s words carefully. One thing I’ve learned is that you don’t make a woman upset. They do not hesitate to tell you about yourself and where you can go…without even thinking twice about it. To tell the truth, I’m not even saying that sometimes men don’t deserve it. I just want to know why y’all be so mad.[featured-image]
One thing I’ve learned about being an “educated” African-American male in society is that I often carry the torch for black men. Many people who do no interact with black men take from their encounters with me a particular view of black men. It’s a harsh reality, but it also makes me realize that my actions/words are being watched by those around me. Are you considered the angry, black woman at the office? Do people know that they should stay away from you or not cross you? Change your language. Don’t blow up every time somebody says something that rubs you the wrong way (even if they deserve it).
Speaking of language, can I say one last thing?
Now this is a personal opinion. To each his/her own. You can take it/leave it or agree/disagree, but I gotta say my piece. For me, one of the most unattractive features for a woman is if they have a foul mouth. I’m sorry. I am not trying to excuse men for having foul mouths (that isn’t right either), but for some reason women with foul mouths (even attractive ones) immediately are unattractive. I don’t care if you look like Halle, Jada, or Gabrielle…if the “cautious reserve in speech” isn’t there, it aint cute. A woman who uses discretion has the ability to express herself articulately without talking like she has porcelain contained in her mouth. Dictionary.com is your friend. I promise.
So what makes a woman attractive? Her ability to use discretion. She is someone who is responsible in every area of her life. She makes decisions that do not compromise who she is as a woman of God. She keeps God first and everything else falls into place. She is also discretionary in her speech. She doesn’t go off on every woman that looks at her side ways. She doesn’t gossip. She is not a “busybody in other people’s matters.”-1 Peter 4:15. She is elegant, graceful, and carries herself in a manner such that her presence speaks for itself.
Maya Angelou had it exactly right:
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud…
It’s in the click of my heels
The bend of my hair
The palm of my hand
The need for my care.
Cause I’m a woman