Sometimes I get mad. I get really mad. I get mad at my wife when we disagree on something. I get mad at men who don’t treat women respectfully. I get mad when people use 4-letter words to express themselves. I even get mad when the Lakers win basketball games. I get mad when my Georgia Bulldogs lose football games. Sometimes my anger is unjustified. I just want to be mad because I can. And nobody, I mean nobody, can change my mind. I’m so glad that God realized that there are times we’ll get upset. He recognized that we were human.
This is probably why he had the writer of Ephesians write, “Be angry, but do not sin.” Look at that. I have permission to be angry. Permission to be…dare I say…human. Anger should never be followed by sin. What is sin? Holding on to that anger. Resenting a person for something they’ve done to you. Keeping a record of what someone else has done to you. Love, true love, keeps no record of faults (See 1 Corinthians 13:5). I’ve kept imaginary score in my relationship with my wife. Any time she brings something up my natural defense mechanism is….”Well I remember when you…” Be angry…but do not sin. I had to repent of that behavior.
Do I still get mad when Kobe Bryant closes a game with a clutch jumpshot? Yes. Do I still get mad when Georgia loses another big game? Of course. Do I still get bothered by some of the things my wife does? Yes. But I’ve made up in my mind…in the grand scheme of things…I can’t dwell on the past. We like to sing about moving forward, but refuse to do so in our relationships. I dare you. I challenge you. You have permission to get mad, but you don’t have permission to stay there.
Move forward and cultivate healthy, happy relationships.
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