Marriage has a way of changing your entire perspective. My wife loves spending time alone with me. Early in our marriage, I misunderstood what this meant. For me, alone time meant sitting back and watching a movie or a basketball game together. This was “good, quality” time.
But she longed for more. There was something missing. There were times she wanted my undivided attention, but I was too busy trying to figure out a movie’s plot or listening to unending commentary about a player’s personal life.
How Much More?
How much more does the Lover of our soul long for alone time with us? Sure we can turn on a Contemporary Christian album and sing along with the lyrics. It might paint a vivid story of God’s character and nature. How is that any different from my idea of movie night representing quality alone time?
We might even go to worship every Sunday and listen to what others have to say about God through preaching the Word. How is that any different from me not wanting to miss a word any of the commentators say about my favorite players?
When I began to unplug myself from all the distractions, my relationship with my wife became more intimate. I learned things about her I would have never learned had I not taken the time out to do one thing—listen. Many of us have the wrong impression when it comes to alone time with God. We think alone time is more about the things we say to Him rather than the things we hear from Him.
Jesus knew this all too well. Any time he came back from spending alone time with God he would have clear direction in his ministry. I’m guessing it’s because he listened more than he spoke (Mark 1:35). He stole away from all the miracle-seeking crowds. He never let his stature in the community keep him from the one thing that sustained him–spending time alone with God.
My marriage is stronger than it was before because I had to recalibrate my idea of what it meant to spend time alone with my wife. Today, maybe some recalibration in your relationship with God is necessary. Eliminate some of those distractions that you think might be helping. God longs for more than you listening to a 12-track composition about Him. He longs for more than you recounting what others say about Him. He just wants it to be about you and Him. Try it. I guarantee you will strengthen your bond with our Creator.